Do you Suffer with Anxiety?

There are so many factors that create anxious feelings within a person. Learning how to recognise and pinpoint what is actually affecting you is the key to helping your body to release these feelings.

From all the work I have done with clients over the years, there is always this one basic feeling that arises with all anxiety and that is the feeling of 'not having control'. If you feel anxious around certain people are they making you feel you don't have control of your emotions, or are they making you feel in order to gain control you are going to have to confront emotions that you don't want to? Do you ever make an appointment with the doctors or dentist or hairdressers and you are fine right up until an hour before the appointment and then you feel anxious or need to use the toilet? Is this because you are about to allow someone else to be in control of your body?

Do you feel anxious that something bad is about to happen because in actual fact you feel uncomfortable that you can't control your surroundings? When getting on a plane or train or bus you are allowing someone else to drive you, does that make you feel anxious and have a feeling of loss of control? When someone from authority confronts you, does that make you feel anxious because they are enforcing their rules on you? If someone you love is sick does that make you anxious and worry because you can't fix them and you have no control over what's happening? Are you anxious over decisions others are making because you have no control over what they are choosing to do?

Write down what makes you feel anxious and then look at how you fit into the picture and can you see where you are feeling that you don't have control and that is what the fear is? And fear comes from having to face emotions we don't want to face. Fear comes from looking embarrassed in front of others. Fear comes from being vulnerable and feeling judged. And all these fears come from how you view yourself. The beliefs you were taught when growing up are imbedded in your thought process and it is so hard to see things in an other way.

People will label themselves as and describe themselves in a way such as "Oh I suffer with anxiety". they are giving themselves permission to feel afraid and that way because it is ok to label themselves as an anxiety sufferer they don't have to push themselves out of their comfort zone and face other emotions. They can take drugs or alcohol or medication which is so much easier than having to face oneself and the deep emotions. They can walk around dumping their anxiety onto others to deal with because it's too hard to deal with themselves. Taking steps to meditate daily, work on the self, be mindful of foods being eaten, all seems like hard work and too hard to deal with, it's so much more comforting to take the easy way.

If you were handed a pill which took away all your anxiety would you rather choose that option?

Or if you were told to meditate regularly, journal your thoughts, seek counselling, research the foods you are eating, eradicate any toxins you are putting into your body, do mind control exercises, engage with people who are uplifting with energy, and show your vulnerability, show your weaknesses, be not afraid of judgement and be totally honest with yourself would you choose this option?

Generally humans will try the quick fix solution rather than having to put in effort.

You don't generally walk around 24 hours a day suffering with anxiety, while you sleep you are calm, when you are doing activities you enjoy you are calm, when spending time with someone you love you are calm, doing an activity you love you feel relaxed, closing off your mind from thoughts you are relaxed, laughing doesn't cause anxious feelings, hugging doesn't cause anxious feelings, so if you are only feeling anxious about certain things, why do you label yourself as someone with anxiety when it'so only a temporary feeling? Maybe you could tell yourself instead of saying "I have anxiety" re-arrange the words to say "I am someone who feels uncomfortable when I am not in control". And to work on repairing this are you willing to face the emotions that come up from feeling uncomfortable when there is a loss of control?

The healing is in your hands.