Conditioned Beliefs
We all have opinions, we all have our own thoughts but are these thoughts what we truly believe or are they conditioned beliefs from what we have picked up through our childhood?
When you really look at your thoughts are you forming judgement on others purely because of how you think they should act?
Where do these beliefs come from? One place is as a child when you are sitting and playing with your toys you have adults talking around you. You could hear your mother sitting with a friend having a coffee and talking in a manner like "Did you hear Mrs Smith has been having an affair with her neighbour and her husband has found out and all hell has broken loose?" The tone in which your mother is using is giving a direct indication to you that this is not acceptable. It's something that should not happen at all because you trust your mother and what she says is right. Without knowing any of the circumstances or any empathy for the people involved you just take the message from your mother that certain actions of people are disgusting (conditioned belief). Another example, in the classroom your teacher is telling a story about someone who is a failure in life because they weren't following the tribe and doing their own thing, you immediately pick up the sense you have to fit in to be accepted. (conditioned belief). You are watching a TV show and the characters and story-line brainwashes you into what you think is right (conditioned belief). You attend church and listen to the teachings of your priests and believe that is truth (conditioned belief). You become part of a sporting team and the coach is disappointed in you if you don't perform to their standard, making you feel you have let others down (conditioned belief). If you see a family member have a fall out with another family member as a child, it becomes ok to not have to repair a relationship and it's ok to walk away and never see someone again (conditioned belief). You need to go to school, find a job, be successful, buy a house, get married, have children (conditioned beliefs).
As a child everything you see, witness, hear, engage in and observe is what is molding your belief system. As you become more aware of your thoughts and habits and really think about things that don't sit right with you, you start to lose some of these conditioned beliefs.
When you really connect back to your soul and see life through non-judgemental eyes, you can bring so much more peace to yourself.
What are you teaching your children to believe? Maybe you are still learning so much about life yourself and struggling with so many things yourself and you aren't even aware of what you are passing onto your own children in the form of conditioned beliefs.
With any situation you are in try and understand and question "what lead this person to be the way they are?" thinking about their childhood, did they grow up with beliefs which have affected them today and that is affecting the way they act. Are they so lost and full of pain that they have turned into nasty or angry people?
Understanding and having no judgement of people, situations and yourself will bring you so much more calm and peace and help you to let go of all those conditioned beliefs that have brainwashed you from childhood. You are born a free spirit full of love and hope and then you take on the beliefs of others and carry this with you into adulthood until you focus on these beliefs and analyse which ones still suit you and which ones no longer serve you.